Do you Talk to Yourself?

Do you Talk to Yourself? ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I hung out with a long time student of mine yesterday and she described someone as, "he doesn't talk to himself,” to explain a lack of self-awareness. SO GOOD. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ How often do you talk to yourself? Like reaaaaally talk? What's your inner dialogue? How well do you know yourself? It's all part of caring for you! ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ There's sometimes fear around getting to know ourselves because we're afraid of what we might see. Shining awareness on the dark parts just makes them light. This is where my mentors have been so important. They help me see all of me from a higher perspective. Self-cultivation is especially important during transitions (like going to college, starting a new school year, trying something new, etc.) when you're inherently getting to know a different version of yourself. Wanna have a chat with yourself? These are things that help me start the conversation: ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ ✨take a walk⁣⁣ ✨listen to music ⁣⁣ ✨dance ⁣⁣ ✨spend time with mentors ⁣⁣ ✨turn off the phone ⁣⁣ ✨pay attention to the world around you ⁣⁣ ✨journal ⁣⁣ ✨go be alone⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Let me know how the convo goes! ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ ** Also not talking to myself in this pic, but laughing at @leshon and having my photo taken by the talented Maja Bakija @maja_bee **

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Do you Talk to Yourself? ⁣⁣
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I hung out with a long time student of mine yesterday and she described someone as, “he doesn’t talk to himself,” to explain a lack of self-awareness. SO GOOD. ⁣⁣
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How often do you talk to yourself? Like reaaaaally talk? What’s your inner dialogue? How well do you know yourself? It’s all part of caring for you! ⁣⁣
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There’s sometimes fear around getting to know ourselves because we’re afraid of what we might see. Shining awareness on the dark parts just makes them light. This is where my mentors have been so important. They help me see all of me from a higher perspective. Self-cultivation is especially important during transitions (like going to college, starting a new school year, trying something new, etc.) when you’re inherently getting to know a different version of yourself. Wanna have a chat with yourself? These are things that help me start the conversation: ⁣⁣
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✨take a walk⁣⁣
✨listen to music ⁣⁣
✨dance ⁣⁣
✨spend time with mentors ⁣⁣
✨turn off the phone ⁣⁣
✨pay attention to the world around you ⁣⁣
✨journal ⁣⁣
✨go be alone⁣⁣
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Let me know how the convo goes! ⁣⁣
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** Also not talking to myself in this pic, but laughing at @leshon and having my photo taken by the talented Maja Bakija @maja_bee **

3 Ways to Lie on Instagram

Click here for video. My relationship to social media is confusing. Just when I’m 100% sure I want to throw my phone in the Hudson River and make anyone who wants to talk to me come find me in person, I see a great dance video, a funny meme, or a cute outfit.

Most of the time, I feel really drained by it all and today I wanted to share a video about what I keep in mind when I’m online. People ONLY show you what they want you to see and that INCLUDES ME. I am a billion times more than what I share here. Highs, lows, and everything in between.

Side note, I feel like this is super important for college freshmen. It’s so easy to think that everyone is adjusting to college life better than you based on social media! It’s not true. College is a big transition. It’s normal to be multi-feeling about it! Click here for video.

Can I Vent?

The Accidental Website Update

 

**The Accidental Website Update** Last Friday while I listened to the new @beyonce and ate ice cream, I decided to update my site and inadvertently erased all the formatting. I freaked out, then realized I’ve had this site since 2013. I have grown and changed, maybe my website should too. So welcome to our new site. Things are still getting figured out (same with me as a human), but just like I am happy with how I am turning out, I feel the same way about the site

Who’s in your Inner Circle?

Who’s in your inner circle? I think about this a lot as I believe that it’s so important to be discerning about whom you go to for guidance. If a business has a Board of Directors for a company’s growth and well being, why wouldn’t you have one for yours? It’s more than just a great group of friends (and you guys know I love my #dwnycoven). I have many different mentors that help me on a range of topics from advising on my work, to more importantly, supporting my inner well being. Do you have a Personal Board of Advisors? Everyone needs one.

mentor faq

I wanted to try to answer some of my most Frequently Asked Questions, but it was very hard to do in a one minute video! Who is Mentoring For: Sometimes talking to someone in a personal way can feel weird, but just like you have an academic advisor if you’re in college or a guidance counselor in high school, why wouldn’t you have a person to talk to about your well being. I like to think of myself as a professional big sister. I work with college and high school girls (I used to work with more middle school girls when I also taught yoga) where it’s like a vent session with a friend who gets what you’re going through. What Do We Talk About: We can talk about anything! Many of my sessions focus on stress and anxiety, as well as school life balance. Social media is a huge topic!!!! My students can be academic achievers and get stressed over school work so we talk about different ways to find balance. Girls chat with me about friendships. We work on how to make and maintain a loyal, kind, inner circle. For my college girls, there’s handling roommates, but the foundation for all my work is to help girls feel happy, confident, and love who they are. Where do the Sessions take Place? Sessions are done either on the phone or in person. They are an hour long and can be booked whenever it fits your schedule. You can buy a one time chat or a package of four. It’s all about what works for you! Want to know more? Info on my website in bio! ✨✨✨

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Dispelling College Myths: What to Expect When you’re a College Freshmen

Today is a post dedicated to dispelling college myths. Whether you’re coming home from your freshmen year or gearing up to go, this is for you!

I love working with college freshmen. It’s such a transformative stage of life that can be both totally thrilling and wildly overwhelming. Here are a few topics that I’m always helping girls work through.

Myth #1:

You’ll be Instantly happy and this is the BEST TIME of your LIFE.

True, college can be great. I LOVED college, but cut yourself a break. Especially for freshmen, you are in a new place, squeezed into a room with a stranger, facing new academic, social, and emotional challenges. It is okay to feel like you are having a time.

Myth #2:

You’ll Meet your Best Friends First Semester Freshmen Year

Slow your roll. You don’t actually see who everyone truly is until second semester then the real personalities come out. I made one of my best friends my senior year so don’t write people off just because they didn’t live on your floor freshmen year.

Myth #3

All your High School Friends are Loving Their College Experience 

Do not compare your real life to the social media life of your high school friends. I’ve said this time and time again: Everyone is Lying to you on Social Media (including me). You don’t have the full story. You don’t know everything that’s going on. People only show you what they want you to see. It’s such a small segment of what’s actually happening. There is a huge chance that they probably feel the exact same amount of overwhelmed you do.

College is a major life change. These are things I wish someone told me! I feel that I sought out mentors when I applied to internships and jobs for the first time. I could have really benefited from mentorship before even heading off to school. To talk through any of these topics or for more information please feel free to reach out!
Love,

Maggie