After many years of mentoring, I’m sharing what I think is the mentorship sweet spot! If you’re a parent and having been thinking about getting your daughter a mentor, this is a great episode for you!
back from college and fitting in with your family
Did you have moments over Thanksgiving break where you felt like your family operated fully without you? Maybe like the didn’t need you or that you didn’t fit in? You are not alone! In this pep talk, I chat through what the root of feeling like you don’t fit in with your family really is and how you can shift out of it!
from friends to friendly
Friendship (especially shifts in them) is a huge topic that comes up in my private practice and in this pep talk, we’re chatting about going from being friends with someone to being acquaintances because it can be uncomfortable. Listen for my mentor tip around this and trust me when I say you’re not alone!
how to ask for help
I always give my students the opportunity to text me in between sessions so they can fill me in on what’s going on or get any kind of support if they need it, but I noticed that there was sometimes hesitancy in reaching out. In today’s pep talk, I’m sharing a reframe for asking for help that’s been really helpful/ make reaching out easier!
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parent pep talk: the father of the bride effect to understand your teen
Today I’m sharing what I call: The Father of the Bride effect and how it will change your perspective on your teen’s behavior. I always share this during my parent talks or parent sessions because it has a huge opportunity for an AHA! moment and to also bring relief to you as a parent. This episode is for you if you feel you’re being met with resistance and not being listened to by your teen!
been recently ditched? you’re not alone
Been recently ditched? If you said, yes, I’m not surprised. September is a HUGE month for friendship shifts. In this episode, I share why back to school getting left out is common, why it’s really big for college freshman, and what you can do about it.
how to know whose advice to take
Have you ever asked a bunch of people what you should do about something then ended up confused OR maybe people just give you unsolicited advice which ends up making you feel unclear. If any of these sound familiar, then this episode is for you. Today, I share a tool for what I use to gage if I should take someone’s advice or not. It’s helped me out so much and I hope it works for you as well!
parent pep talk: how to support your college student while they’re away at school
You get the call from your daughter at college that she’s upset and you immediately want to swoop in and come up with 10 solutions for whatever issue she’s brought up. It’s amazing to have ideas for support, but your student might actually need something different. In this pep talk, we chat about the shift from doer to supporter parenting, walk you through a real life example of how this plays out, and why you new role as advisor is so incredibly important.
parent pep talk: “last weekend as a family” pressure
If you have a college student leaving for school soon and have been hearing yourself say, “This is our last week (or weekend) as a family,” I’m issuing a gentle PSA: the last week as a family is a crazy time! It’s okay to just let it be a chaotic, messy, full weekend. Let’s deescalate this together and take the pressure off of ourselves!
play out worst case scenarios? try this
Do you worry? I do! If you’re someone who tends to fear fantasize, this tool is for you. My mentor Erin taught me this and I’ve been using it with my students ever since. Hope this serves you as much as it’s served me.