Do you find it hard to make decisions? Stay in or go out? What to eat for dinner? What to major in? What sorority to join? Maybe you’re making a big decision like what college to go to. Inspired by life coach Martha Beck, I share a tip to help guide you during any decision big or small. This is an especially important listen for any of the people pleasers out there!
what to do when you’re blue
Last week I felt so blue and if you’re from the Northeast, then you know that the winter’s can be tough on our mood. I wanted to share the two big things you can do help shift yourself out of feeling down and how to get the **right** support.
Every labor day weekend I get the same call from parents of college freshmen and what they share inspired my favorite mantra for parents: support not solve! In this pep talk, we chat examples of how to implement the mantra, what I feel the role of a parent is, and how it relates to doer versus supporter parenting.
Do Mondays make you anxious? Get a pit in your stomach about the week ahead? Sunday Scaries are a real thing!
Today I’m sharing what I do on Sundays to help make Mondays easier (while also including one thing that I absolutely do not do).
Feeling unmotivated lately? This has been a YES for my students so I wanted to talk about it here. Motivation is a super layered topic. In this episode we cover the reasons we can feel unmotivated, why your “why” matters, and practical steps to shift a motivation rut.
Thinking about making a big change in your life? Transferring schools? Leaving your job? Changing your relationship status? Those decisions can feel huge and usually start as a whisper almost as if what’s in your heart starts to float to your head. In this pep talk, I share what the main thing is to consider when you’re making a big move and the number one thing to keep in mind when you’re in fear of change.
What kind of mom or dad do you want to be? Parent Coach, Mary Van Geffen joins us to share her amazing Thanksgiving Exercise to help you get clear on the kind of family culture you want to create. We also chat about how the exercise uncovers the north star for family decisions, the importance of sharing the results with your teens, and the impact on parents personally as well.
connect with Mary:
If your hope for your children is to be whole hearted, confident adults this is the pep talk for you. One of the biggest topics I chat with parents about is the transition from doer parenting to supporter parenting. In this episode we chat about the difference between doer and supporter parenting is, why in adolescence we need to shift to supporter, and I share examples of how I sometimes see this play out as a mentor.
I need to be “good” today because I was “bad” yesterday. Ever say that to yourself in terms of eating? In this pep talk, I chat about the impact of labeling things as good/bad, what restriction really ends up doing, and a mentor reframe for letting go of labels.
Sometimes I feel it’s easier for students to chat with me, a mentor, versus their parents because of how I receive their stories. The key to having someone open up to you is that they feel safe and unfortunately at times we inadvertently do the opposite to the people we love. In this pep talk, I chat what it means to not match people’s energy, how to get someone to open up to you, and what emotional safety can look like in connection.