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Last week I accidentally wrote New Year’s Resolutions (and I loathe New Year's Resolutions) when a bestie asked me what are: 5 old self things that you want to let go of 5 new self things you want to move towards 5 things about yourself that never change A little trick is if you look at your list of things you’d like to change, write the opposite down for “what you want to bring closer” because that’s 👏what 👏you 👏actually 👏want. For example: one thing I want to let go of is trusting other people’s opinions more than my own. The opposite of that is self-trust, which is, in fact, what I truly desire. When I finished, I realized without trying, I had a clear list of intentions of how I want to live my life. Big encouragement to take some time to do this. I sent it to my group chat and then the coven discussed later that night when we met up. Let me know how it goes! Also this picture is from my newsletter (which you can sign up for on my website) header and I thought it was cute so I wanted to post ☺️
College, Stress, and your Tipping Point. College stress can feel like a game of jenga: one false move and you’re crying in public. Full video here on how to handle stress while at college!
On becoming a different version of yourself:
(as I sit in the uncomfortable-ness of my own change!!)
This has been on my mind lately. Maybe it’s summer turning into fall, but I just feel a lot of change all around me.
It’s okay to evolve into a different version of yourself. It can be overwhelming to feel sort of unrecognizable to yourself, but it’s all part of growth. I know a lot of my college freshmen feel this way. Any experience that stretches you or helps you evaluate what you want and how to get there, can be uncomfortable. You’re just becoming a more truthful version of yourself. Be patient. Be gentle. Have a dance party. Cry. Call your mentors. Tell the people you love, that you love them. This too shall pass. 📸 by @maja_bee
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on college roommates a little late to posting this because many of you have already moved into your dorms, but just a note on living with roommates for the first time. My biggest piece of advice is to have zero expectations. Most of you will be squeezed into a room with a stranger. Don’t put pressure on the roommate situation by thinking that you guys should be best friends, invite each other to everything, have the same philosophies or standards of living. You just have to be open. There can be so much newness in college and being in this major life transition can be overwhelming. Take this time to get curious about yourself, about others, about your needs, likes, and dislikes. College, and freshman year especially, can be an amazing time for self-discovery if you allow it. ** Bigger piece of advice** Figure out your roommate’s schedule and pencil in alone time. Most places at school are common areas so it can be hard to find time to be by yourself and decompress. Everyone needs time by themselves so schedule it when your roommate is at class and you’re not. 📸 by @maja_bee
Mind Body Medicine
Back-to-school can stir up lots of feelings and it’s basically been the focus of all my sessions since the beginning of August. A topic I’ve shared with my students is the mind body connection or how your thoughts and emotions can affect your physical condition. Not as a replacement for medical advice, but whenever I feel out of sorts in my body, I try to think of the emotional component in a literal way. Examples:
A friend said she had no appetite and I asked, “What’s eating you up?”
I had heartburn and my mom asked me, “What’s burning your heart?”
A student had a neck ache and I asked, “Is anyone in your life being a pain in the neck?”
My hip flexors were super tight and I asked myself, “Where am I being inflexible?”
Mindful questions can help you see yourself or situation from a perspective that maybe you didn’t consider before. Pay attention to how you feel physically. Butterflies in your stomach, tension headaches, tight neck and shoulders can all indicate built up feelings. Your body talks to you all day long, you just have to listen. ✨📸 by @maja_bee
When I went away to college it was the most freedom that I had experienced up to that point. As exciting and new as that was, it was also overwhelming. Students today are more stressed than ever and it’s totally scary to go to college not knowing how to take care of yourself.
Who's in your inner circle? I think about this a lot as I believe that it's so important to be discerning about whom you go to for guidance. If a business has a Board of Directors for a company's growth and well being, why wouldn't you have one for yours? It's more than just a great group of friends (and you guys know I love my #dwnycoven). I have many different mentors that help me on a range of topics from advising on my work, to more importantly, supporting my inner well being. Do you have a Personal Board of Advisors? Everyone needs one.
Who’s in your inner circle? I think about this a lot as I believe that it’s so important to be discerning about whom you go to for guidance. If a business has a Board of Directors for a company’s growth and well being, why wouldn’t you have one for yours? It’s more than just a great group of friends (and you guys know I love my #dwnycoven). I have many different mentors that help me on a range of topics from advising on my work, to more importantly, supporting my inner well being. Do you have a Personal Board of Advisors? Everyone needs one.
I wanted to try to answer some of my most Frequently Asked Questions, but it was very hard to do in a one minute video! Who is Mentoring For: Sometimes talking to someone in a personal way can feel weird, but just like you have an academic advisor if you’re in college or a guidance counselor in high school, why wouldn’t you have a person to talk to about your well being. I like to think of myself as a professional big sister. I work with college and high school girls (I used to work with more middle school girls when I also taught yoga) where it’s like a vent session with a friend who gets what you’re going through. What Do We Talk About: We can talk about anything! Many of my sessions focus on stress and anxiety, as well as school life balance. Social media is a huge topic!!!! My students can be academic achievers and get stressed over school work so we talk about different ways to find balance. Girls chat with me about friendships. We work on how to make and maintain a loyal, kind, inner circle. For my college girls, there’s handling roommates, but the foundation for all my work is to help girls feel happy, confident, and love who they are. Where do the Sessions take Place? Sessions are done either on the phone or in person. They are an hour long and can be booked whenever it fits your schedule. You can buy a one time chat or a package of four. It’s all about what works for you! Want to know more? Info on my website in bio! ✨✨✨