Did you know that the ‘time is running out’ feeling might just be an anxiety response? Typically when you’re wrestling with the idea of time you’re feeling OOC (the mentor way to saying: Out of Control). In today’s pep talk we talk about being out of control, how to move through the feeling of being OOC, and tips for staying present when you feel like time is moving too fast.
my mentor origin story
I LOVE an origin story. I deeply appreciate hearing about how someone got to where they’re at. I’m always searching for podcasts featuring someone’s backstory and in today’s pep talk, I share my own mini mentor story. I also give you some homework (not the hard kind) to help you think about your own story. Enjoy!
are you angry or are you resentful?
Are you mad or are you actually RESENTFUL? This is a question, I’ve asked my students lately. Resentment is not a word typically brought up by mentees, but it’s definitely present! In today’s pep talk, we chat about what resentment really is (mind blown), Brene Brown’s definition of the emotion, and a trick to knowing when you’re resentful and how to move through it.
give yourself a break
Many of my students have high expectations and end up being super hard on themselves. I recently asked a mentee, “Do you feel like you deserve rest?” and she said, “Only if I’ve earned it.” That resonated big time. In this pep talk, I share the two areas I feel like we need to give ourselves breaks in, thoughts around what brings you energy and what takes it away, and a journal exercise to help you figure out what you need break from.
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a simple tip for happier teens
During the pandemic, I noticed that in the absence of transitions (like a commute or grabbing lunch or going to a workout class) how important they are to our mental wellbeing. In today’s pep talk, I’m chatting why having a transitions from one activity to the next is necessary and how to more mindfully incorporate them into your day.
parent pep talk: how to get your teens to take your advice
Feel like your teens aren’t taking your advice? I got you. In today’s pep talk, I share the unlock when it comes to getting your teenagers to heed your guidance, why pulling back from parents is an important part adolescent development, and what you can do to help your kids hear you.
how to know what to do
Do you find it hard to make decisions? Stay in or go out? What to eat for dinner? What to major in? What sorority to join? Maybe you’re making a big decision like what college to go to. Inspired by life coach Martha Beck, I share a tip to help guide you during any decision big or small. This is an especially important listen for any of the people pleasers out there!
mary van geffen: an exercise to clarify your family culture
What kind of mom or dad do you want to be? Parent Coach, Mary Van Geffen joins us to share her amazing Thanksgiving Exercise to help you get clear on the kind of family culture you want to create. We also chat about how the exercise uncovers the north star for family decisions, the importance of sharing the results with your teens, and the impact on parents personally as well.
connect with Mary:
Http://cyclical-parenting.teachable.com/p/the-compassionate-response-meditation-workshop
parent pep talk: the shift from doer parenting to supporter parenting
If your hope for your children is to be whole hearted, confident adults this is the pep talk for you. One of the biggest topics I chat with parents about is the transition from doer parenting to supporter parenting. In this episode we chat about the difference between doer and supporter parenting is, why in adolescence we need to shift to supporter, and I share examples of how I sometimes see this play out as a mentor.
don’t match the energy
Sometimes I feel it’s easier for students to chat with me, a mentor, versus their parents because of how I receive their stories. The key to having someone open up to you is that they feel safe and unfortunately at times we inadvertently do the opposite to the people we love. In this pep talk, I chat what it means to not match people’s energy, how to get someone to open up to you, and what emotional safety can look like in connection.