Been recently ditched? If you said, yes, I’m not surprised. September is a HUGE month for friendship shifts. In this episode, I share why back to school getting left out is common, why it’s really big for college freshman, and what you can do about it.
Have you ever asked a bunch of people what you should do about something then ended up confused OR maybe people just give you unsolicited advice which ends up making you feel unclear. If any of these sound familiar, then this episode is for you. Today, I share a tool for what I use to gage if I should take someone’s advice or not. It’s helped me out so much and I hope it works for you as well!
Do you know what your trauma response is? That sounds heavy, but what I’m really asking is: do you know when you’re dysregulated? aka what brings us in and out of emotional wellbeing. In this pep talk, we chat how understanding the nervous system supports mental wellness for college students, the mind/body connection, where drugs and alcohol fit in, and what I’m seeing on college campuses in terms of what’s dysregulating students.
what to know if you want to transfer
Transferring schools is a big decision and not something to take lightly! This pep talk shares what you need to know when you consider leaving the school you’re at, how making a change is never the end of the world, and why understanding where you’re coming from is a huge part of the process.
unexpected advice for college students (no matter what grade you’re in)
Today’s pep talk is a clip from my ‘ask me anything’ episode! Someone submitted: if you could only give one piece of advice to college students what would it be? What I share is something I remind my students of often and even feel it’s most important for upperclassmen to keep in mind! It can be easy to forget the bigger picture when you’re going through your day-to-day and that’s why this little mind shift can have a big impact.
Mind Body Medicine
Back-to-school can stir up lots of feelings and it’s basically been the focus of all my sessions since the beginning of August. A topic I’ve shared with my students is the mind body connection or how your thoughts and emotions can affect your physical condition. Not as a replacement for medical advice, but whenever I feel out of sorts in my body, I try to think of the emotional component in a literal way. Examples:
A friend said she had no appetite and I asked, “What’s eating you up?”
I had heartburn and my mom asked me, “What’s burning your heart?”
A student had a neck ache and I asked, “Is anyone in your life being a pain in the neck?”
My hip flexors were super tight and I asked myself, “Where am I being inflexible?”
Mindful questions can help you see yourself or situation from a perspective that maybe you didn’t consider before. Pay attention to how you feel physically. Butterflies in your stomach, tension headaches, tight neck and shoulders can all indicate built up feelings. Your body talks to you all day long, you just have to listen. ✨📸 by @maja_bee
During college I was on the BC Pom Squad where I danced at all the football and basketball games. Recently, my mom asked me how it felt to cheer on the team all those years. I told her I was a performer, not a cheerleader, but it made me think. I was there to show school spirit and support Boston College so she was right. I was a cheerleader. Over the last few weeks, I’ve realized that I’m still a cheerleader. As a mentor I support and champion for girls all day long. This is the game changer: Everyone needs a cheerleader and it’s the key to confidence.
We all need to hear encouragement from an impartial third party. Parental support is incredibly important, but can sometimes be ignored. A cheerleader guides girls to see their own value. Everyone needs help believing in themselves. There is invaluable strength that comes from having another person cheer you on. Also when you have a cheerleader, it helps you become a better cheerleader for others. Take some time today to send your cheerleaders a little extra love!
Another fun week here! Earlier in the summer, Teen Vogue asked me to share what I felt like girls needed to know the most before heading to campus. I know that I felt really nervous about starting college and I’m so happy to be a resource! BONUS: If you dig the article, I have my College Prep video here. All the BEST tips!