assuming the worst

Have you ever assumed the worst about something or someone and then been proven absolutely wrong? I have and so have my friends and students that’s why this is a pep talk today. We are chatting about what assuming the worst is really about, how it totally sucks when someone does this to us, a technique to help all of this, and why text messages are a breeding ground for misunderstanding.

mentioned pep talk:

are you angry or resentful?

the roommate race

Something new I’ve seen over the last few years is the freshman year hunt for the roommate. Instead of getting assigned randomly, students are connecting and finding roommates online, which although has definitive positives, it’s also causing stress. In today’s pep talk, I’m sharing some tips for handling a roommate search no matter if you’re a freshman or post grad!

give yourself a break

Many of my students have high expectations and end up being  super hard on themselves. I recently asked a mentee, “Do you feel like you deserve rest?” and she said, “Only if I’ve earned it.” That resonated big time. In this pep talk, I share the two areas I feel like we need to give ourselves breaks in, thoughts around what brings you energy and what takes it away, and a journal exercise to help you figure out what you need break from.

connect with Maggie: 

www.maggiedipasquale.com

1:1 mentoring

online membership

on dating and hooking up

Want more from your relationships? This topic comes up in my private practice a lot. What I hear is that students are **not** cultivating the kind of romantic relationships they really want. Why is this? In this episode we talk about hooking up, what’s at the core when we get intimate with someone, and how to shift to make your relationships more fulfilling.

how to know what to do

Do you find it hard to make decisions? Stay in or go out? What to eat for dinner? What to major in? What sorority to join? Maybe you’re making a big decision like what college to go to. Inspired by life coach Martha Beck, I share a tip to help guide you during any decision big or small. This is an especially important listen for any of the people pleasers out there!

a pep talk on motivation

Feeling unmotivated lately? This has been a YES for my students so I wanted to talk about it here. Motivation is a super layered topic. In this episode we cover the reasons we can feel unmotivated, why your “why” matters, and practical steps to shift a motivation rut.

what to consider when making a big change

Thinking about making a big change in your life? Transferring schools? Leaving your job? Changing your relationship status? Those decisions can feel huge and usually start as a whisper almost as if what’s in your heart starts to float to your head. In this pep talk, I share what the main thing is to consider when you’re making a big move and the number one thing to keep in mind when you’re in fear of change.

a pep talk on change

There’s obvious change that happens in life where you know it’s coming like starting or graduating college, but then there’s not-so-obvious big changes like letting go of an old thought pattern or deciding you want something and figuring out how to go after it. We pay a lot of attention to the big changes, but I’ve found that most change comes from the sum of many subtle shifts. Today’s pep talk is not about managing change, but more about when the change you want to see in your life isn’t really happening, if you feel stuck, or what to think about when you want something to change.

one way high school affects the rest of your life

what’s the story you’re telling yourself?

“I’m not good enough.” “I’m not smart enough.” “I can’t do that.” Have you ever said any of those to yourself? The stories we tell ourselves (about ourselves) are incredibly important and believe it or not for many people, a life long story you create about yourself can start during high school. In today’s pep talk, I share some common high school stories that pop up during the college process, how they affect your present, and how to change your story if you don’t love the one you’re telling yourself.

more mentoring: 

confidence versus competence

mentor links: 

https://maggiedipasquale.com/

1:1 sessions

how “should” stress ruins relaxing (and what to do about it)

Ever try to relax and then tell yourself all the things you should be doing instead? I should be studying. I should be doing my laundry. I should be out with friends. This definitely ruins relaxing and I’ve seen it spike during the pandemic when we don’t have clear boundaries between all of our activities. Today’s pep talk, I share a quick tip for get out of the “shoulds” when it comes to downtime.

more mentoring: 

stack stress support

productivity pep talk

blursday remedy

ritualizing your routine