modern mentorship: getting you across campus (and beyond) one pep talk at a time
It’s Spring here in the Northeast and if you’re getting outside more and wanted to something to listen to I’m sharing my current fav pep talks!
if you want to be yourself with friends:
if you want to understand yourself more:
if you want to relax:
**bonus** I know I said 3, but hey, this is my space and I want to include a pep talk on dating!
if you’re wondering if they like you:
Do you dissect everything when you start talking to someone you’re interested in? Do the beginning stages of getting to know someone feel confusing? With so many ways to communicate (FaceTime, dating apps, Snapchat etc), there’s a lot going on. A question I hear consistently is: how can I tell if someone likes me? In this pep talk, I share the question you really should be asking yourself (2:34), how to feel empowered in dating (3:28), and how I know when someone is into me (5:23).
if you’ve ever been ghosted (and felt confused or bad about it) this episode is for you. I chat ghosting, what it really means, and share my best relationship advice. also! did you know you can be ghosted in a job situation/ friendships so I got your back and covered those too.
You just found out your sister borrowed your clothes without asking. Your roommates ate all your food. You’re debating whether or not to text your ex-boyfriend. You’re contemplating how to handle a fight with a friend. We’ve all been there- situations where you want to react immediately in the heat of the moment especially in ways that you might regret later on. One of the best ways to manage emotions is to take time. 24 hours between you and a problem will make a world of difference.
Now I’m not going to lie this is a tough rule to follow. You’re going to need to check your emotions and focus on calming down. I’ve learned this the hard way. Almost every time I act out of haste I regret it and usually immediately. When I wait, I have a clear mind that gives me new perspective and I’m so happy I didn’t say/text/email/ whatever it was I really wanted to say in that moment. A day helps you to focus on what you really want from a situation.
Here are some ways to give yourself space from a problem:
– Ask your Inner Guidance System (Inner GPS) for help. All you need is one little line. I say, “Please guide me towards the highest outcome.”
– Back away from the situation. Move away from the computer. Drop the phone.
– Go work out. Nothing like sweating out a problem.
– Ask yourself if you’re bringing love to the situation? Are you making it better or worse?
– Write out your frustration in a journal.
– Stop, drop and meditate.
I know taking time can be hard, but it’s so worth it. The 24-hour rule helps in a multitude of ways, but it all stems from the peace you get when you give yourself the break of time.