making friends in quarantine

::CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE:: 

Who are the people in your life that you tell the truth about yourself to?

This is your inner circle… 

And it’s not an easy thing to put together. During covid, community is more important than ever. I know I’ve definitely felt isolated! 

When I just graduated college, I used to go to Monday night Gabby Bernstein groups where I met a lot of people with like minded interests, but how do we do that in times of quarantine? Megan McDowell of Heartworks shares with me how to build this inner circle at 45 minutes in the podcast below. 

Creating community starts with yourself. If you’re only projecting to people that you have your shit together all the time, life is going to be very lonely. This is also why mentorship has been so important to me. Mentors are in my inner circle that meet me and accept where I’m at. 

Watch the video clip here:

https://www.instagram.com/tv/CD1-Vi4j_wUrYArFjaEnb6d3YawA0lCJ39lw2U0/

full episode here:

 

A Gabby Bernstein Trick for Getting What you Want

Last night I attended my mentor Gabby Bernstein’s new book event. Knowing that she always has the best advice, I waited a day to do this video blog. Today, I’m sharing the trick she gave when it comes to creating what you want in life. This is so perfect for kicking off a new school year. Check out today’s video!

 

5 Must Follow Instagram Accounts for Positivity

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Over the summer, I followed a fitness blogger on Instagram and I constantly compared myself to her. Every time I looked at her posts, I felt like I wasn’t enough. It was nothing she was doing. She has no idea who I am. It was the internal dialogue I had with myself when I looked at her content. I decided to unfollow her in order to choose inspiration that builds me up.

I don’t know one girl who isn’t constantly comparing herself to people online. In a world where there’s a lot of information, FOMO (Fear of Missing Out), and social media drain, we need to be mindful of what we’re looking at online. The relationship we build with ourselves starts with the inner dialogue we’re having. This means intentionally following people that make us feel good and not bad. Today I’m sharing my top 5 Instagram accounts that bring me positivity and make me smile!

@buddhadoodles

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These adorable doodles come with such great messages. Whenever I catch one, I take it as what I needed for the day!

@gabbybernstein

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Gabby is my long time mentor. I love her! Her Insta is so inspiring. I love knowing what she’s up to, her tips on life and meditation as well as motivational quotes.

@pumpkintheraccoon

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Pumpkin is a rescued raccoon who lives with a family (and dogs) in the Bahamas. She’s so cute and always doing goofy things.

@yogisheart

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My friend Trella runs a yoga nonprofit called Yogi’s Heart, which brings yoga scholarships to individuals 15-25 years old who want to practice regularly. Her Instagram feed is as beautiful as she is inside and out!

@cntraveler 

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I love to travel and this Insta is like taking a mini vacation. Plus I love learning about new places! #travelgoals

 

 

What I Posted on Instagram vs What Really Happened

Last week, I read a post by a blogger who revealed what really happened behind her Instagram pictures. Feeling inspired, I’m sharing my Insta feed, but I’m taking it a step further. I always tell my students to ask themselves WAIP (Why Am I Posting) before they upload, so today I’m going to show you why I posted the pictures I did (and what didn’t make the cut).

THURSDAY

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Why Am I Posting:

My intern and I are working hard on creating Modern Mentor give-aways this summer and if you’re one of my students, I’ve been talking about these babies for awhile! I posted this picture because I wanted to make girls happy knowing they’d get cute MM gear soon!

What I Didn’t Post:

I did lots of work at a cafe, held a private group, and had a private one-on-one session. At night, I took a yoga class, ate a healthy dinner, and read a book before bed. Trying to be really present in my everyday life means not taking pictures of everything.

FRIDAY

Why Am I Posting:

I posted nothing.

What I Didn’t Post:

Busy day! In the morning, I visited my family in town from Texas on the Upper East Side. After, I walked through the park to a meeting on the Upper West Side, while on my phone for another meeting. I took pictures of the Central Park Zoo, but didn’t post because they were just for me. No pictures of my meeting on the UWS because we were too busy chatting.

My friend and I met our mentor, Gabby, for lunch. We haven’t seen each other in awhile and spent all our time catching up, not on our phone. I got my nails done then headed back to the apartment to send out a bunch of emails before the end of the day.

In the evening, I met friends for dinner. We had Mexican food and if I posted all the tacos I’ve eaten this summer, my whole entire feed would be food. There were tons of opportunities for posting pics, but I don’t need to show I’m having fun because I’m too busy having fun!

SATURDAY

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Why Am I Posting:

I went with my sister and a friend to the Conservatory Gardens in Central Park. It was so peaceful. I’m always amazed that in the middle of the concrete jungle there is this gorgeous green park. It’s a metaphor for life. You can always find inner peace, even when life around you gets crazy. It was very meditative. I wanted to share and inspire!

What I Didn’t Post:

In the morning, my sister and I got coffee at a cute little place before I headed to my friend’s awesome yoga class. I didn’t post pictures of the crazy poses we did because I was too busy being upside-down! After, I met up with my sister and our friend for brunch before heading to the garden.

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Why Am I Posting:

You know how I tell you to be active, get moving, and make sure you take care of your body? I just wanted to show you that I take my own advice and inspire you to move your body!

What I Didn’t Post

My sister and I met my mom and dad for a family dinner with our cousins in from France. I tried escargot (which just tastes like lots of butter). Took pictures of the snails, but it stayed in my personal file because I didn’t think it was inspiring. After dinner, I met my friends visiting from Boston. I was too busy having fun to post pictures.

SUNDAY

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Why Am I Posting:

I was so happy to meet another friend in from Boston for brunch. We went to a really cute place where the sugar had quotes on it. I felt inspired by the sweetness and wanted to pass it along.

What I Didn’t Post

Walking through the city, catching up with my friend, making lunch for my grandparents, being super tired, going to bed at 9:30pm.

So there you go, my weekend on Instagram. Now, what feels authentic for me is going to be different for you, but I hope this inspires you to really WAIP before you post!