modern mentorship: getting you across campus (and beyond) one pep talk at a time
Have you ever hung out with people, had a great time, only to wake up with anxiety about what you said or did? If you’re someone that replays every stupid thing you did in your head, this episode is for you. I share my major tips for curing an emotional hangover and how to cut yourself slack for being human.
One of the things I’m really obsessed with as a mentor is I get the honor of really seeing someone. I get to see what you’re great at, where all your good stuff is (even if you can’t see it for yourself), and how you can bring more of it into your everyday life.
It takes bravery to let someone see you because it can feel so vulnerable, but having someone witness your inner self and be able to share it back with you is like embracing an old friend, but that friend is the deepest part of yourself. I’m lucky to have Peri Zarrella hold that space for me. Below, you can listen to Peri witness what my energy feels like to her, but there are many ways to reveal ourselves. Wishing everyone the courage to share their authenticity with trusted confidants as we head into a new season.
Have you ever felt anxiety begin to creep up and then you start to worry about feeling anxious on top of it? I get it. I’ve been there too. This anxiety checklist is what I go to first when I feel anxiety coming on. I take a look at this list, make some tweaks, and am able to help myself feel better.
Here’s the meditation I do when I feel anxious:
“What should I do?” I hear this question all the time as a mentor. Confusion can be uncomfortable (not to mention lonely). It’s sometimes hard to make sense of life’s changes and challenges. In my pep talk today, I share my magic tricks. They’re simple ways to use tarot cards, spirit animals, and even spotify as an oracle for life guidance. When you connect to your inner-self, you’re able to trust in the unfolding of your life, recognize your path, and move forward in areas that feel stuck.
It’s so easy on social media to take what we see as the total truth even if we know better. We have to be extra careful especially during the pandemic when we are on our phones and computer more than usual (if that’s even possible). Check out this clip on what to remember when you’re scrolling through social and how it can affect your wellness. What you follow becomes what you think whether you like it or not.
Jealously has been a sneaky side effect of the pandemic. It’s easy to think that someone has it better than you when there are all different levels of school and work opening for fall. Jealously can actually be used in a really positive way if you know what to do with it. Today’s pep-talk, I share how a moment of jealously helped me and how you can use it to get what you want in your life.
a meditation for acceptance
I received a message from a parent that had a student really bummed out about starting freshmen year of high school online and knew I wanted to help out. I’ve spent the last few months feeling like every day is groundhogs day and know my students feel this too because I hear about it in my sessions. She asked for an acceptance meditation and overcoming difficulties we face with an online school year.
This meditation has been my saving grace throughout this unknown time. It’s less than 10 minutes to relax and process feelings so that you can move through and move on from discomfort. P.S. there was a thunderstorm during the recording, which I think adds perfect ambiance!
The pandemic bulldozed over your spring semester sliding right into your job hunt for any 2020 grads. It’s also changed the job landscape putting even more emphasis on being able to stand out among other candidates. In this audio clip, I share a tip that my friend in recruiting gave me that changed the way I present myself during interviews. It may seem obvious, but you’d be surprised how many people don’t do this. You need to be able to show employers why they should hire you for the job and this tip helps paints a memorable story about yourself.
The pandemic has turned college admissions upside down. Without SAT/ACT scores, extracurriculars, and with semesters of pass/fail grades, the traditional admissions rubric no longer works. This is a huge opportunity as more weight shifts to a student’s character making essays, interviews, and recommendations essential. In this episode, I share my #1 tip to stand out in college essays and cover letters. Knowing who you are, why you want to be a student at a specific school, and how to articulate it, is now crucial. This is a pandemic shift I am actually excited about!
::CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE::
Who are the people in your life that you tell the truth about yourself to?
This is your inner circle…
And it’s not an easy thing to put together. During covid, community is more important than ever. I know I’ve definitely felt isolated!
When I just graduated college, I used to go to Monday night Gabby Bernstein groups where I met a lot of people with like minded interests, but how do we do that in times of quarantine? Megan McDowell of Heartworks shares with me how to build this inner circle at 45 minutes in the podcast below.
Creating community starts with yourself. If you’re only projecting to people that you have your shit together all the time, life is going to be very lonely. This is also why mentorship has been so important to me. Mentors are in my inner circle that meet me and accept where I’m at.
Watch the video clip here:
https://www.instagram.com/tv/CD1-Vi4j_wUrYArFjaEnb6d3YawA0lCJ39lw2U0/
full episode here: