mary van geffen: an exercise to clarify your family culture

What kind of mom or dad do you want to be? Parent Coach, Mary Van Geffen joins us to share her amazing Thanksgiving Exercise to help you get clear on the kind of family culture you want to create. We also chat about how the exercise uncovers the north star for family decisions, the importance of sharing the results with your teens, and the impact on parents personally as well.

connect with Mary: 

instagram

Http://cyclical-parenting.teachable.com/p/the-compassionate-response-meditation-workshop

Https://maryvangeffen.teachable.com/p/calm-in-chaos

parent pep talk: the shift from doer parenting to supporter parenting

If your hope for your children is to be whole hearted, confident adults this is the pep talk for you. One of the biggest topics I chat with parents about is the transition from doer parenting to supporter parenting. In this episode we chat about the difference between doer and supporter parenting is, why in adolescence we need to shift to supporter, and I share examples of how I sometimes see this play out as a mentor.

don’t match the energy

Sometimes I feel it’s easier for students to chat with me, a mentor, versus their parents because of how I receive their stories. The key to having someone open up to you is that they feel safe and unfortunately at times we inadvertently do the opposite to the people we love. In this pep talk, I chat what it means to not match people’s energy, how to get someone to open up to you, and what emotional safety can look like in connection.

is your house safe?

Do you live in a safe house… like an emotionally safe one? This pep talk is all about creating an emotionally safe household and why it’s a big part of helping our kids regulate their nervous systems. It all starts with trust. In this episode we cover a Brene Brown approved definition of what trust is and why it’s important in safety.


 

parent pep talk: how not to drown in what your kids throw at you

Your child comes home from middle/high school upset. Your kid calls you overwhelmed at college. If you’re a parent, there’s a good chance you’ve been in these situations at some point and it’s painful! You know it’s something your kids have to figure out on their own, but you also want to swoop in… then they seem to move on and you’re still in all the stress. In this pep talk, I’m sharing what it really means when we get stuck in our kids’ stuff, what you can do to help yourself and your kids, and what a regulation ritual looks like.


 

parenting teens with Mary Van Geffen

We are joined for today’s pep talk by international parenting coach Mary Van Geffen! After finding herself overwhelmed by her Titanium-Willed Child, Mary became a Simplicity Parenting Counselor® and Professional Co-Active Coach® to help overwhelmed moms with strong-willed or spicy children. Mary has been an epic follow on Instagram and her parent tip-a-day is always packed with so much value.

I asked her to be our guest to talk about parenting teens. We chat about the difference between being in charge versus control, how to foster an energy of cooperation that will help your teens hear you, what the real work of parenting is, a script you can use for setting tech boundaries with you kids, and an exercise to get you clear about the kind of family culture you want to create

connect with Mary: 

instagram

Http://cyclical-parenting.teachable.com/p/the-compassionate-response-meditation-workshop

Https://maryvangeffen.teachable.com/p/calm-in-chaos