Sometimes I feel it’s easier for students to chat with me, a mentor, versus their parents because of how I receive their stories. The key to having someone open up to you is that they feel safe and unfortunately at times we inadvertently do the opposite to the people we love. In this pep talk, I chat what it means to not match people’s energy, how to get someone to open up to you, and what emotional safety can look like in connection.
why people lie
“Why didn’t they tell me that before?” If that question has crossed your mind, this is a pep talk for you. Inspired by (and shared with permission) a student who had a friend lie by omission, I explain why people lie especially by withholding, share a quote from psychologist Dr. Becky Kennedy that really illuminates lying motivation, and give a suggestion around what you can do if you feel you’ve been lied to.
how to accomplish a big goal
Ever have a big goal, but not sure where to start? Feel stuck in a particular area of life and don’t know how to move forward? I’ve got your back. In this pep talk, I’m sharing a tangible way to accomplish goals that’s not as hard as you think!
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second myth of the college experience: you’ll meet all you friends freshmen year
“Everyone has friends already.” “I don’t have anyone to hang with.” There’s an expectation that you get to campus and immediately click, connect, and have a group of friends. For most people that doesn’t happen! In this pep talk, we chat the real timeline of college friendships, stress around picking sophomore year roommates, and why your whole time at college is a great time to meet people (not just freshmen year).
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top 10 what a time podcast episodes
Most Downloaded Wellness Podcast Episodes For College Students and Post Grads
I’ve had my podcast for a year now and wanted to share my top 10 podcast episodes as an access point to what topics have been important to girls and parents. I always love when other podcasts share these lists because I’m curious to see what people found interesting. I hope you enjoy!
ep. 23 essence energy with peri zarrella
ep. 17 all the stress
ep. 5 women’s health with nurse practitioner julia huff
ep. 12 on being ghosted
ep. 19 when expectations don’t meet reality
ep. 21 does he like me or is it quarantine
ep 24 mentor minute with megan mcdowell
ep. 20 corona mentorship
ep. 7 find your tribe
ep. 14 low bar meditating
bummed about online learning? try this
a meditation for acceptance
I received a message from a parent that had a student really bummed out about starting freshmen year of high school online and knew I wanted to help out. I’ve spent the last few months feeling like every day is groundhogs day and know my students feel this too because I hear about it in my sessions. She asked for an acceptance meditation and overcoming difficulties we face with an online school year.
This meditation has been my saving grace throughout this unknown time. It’s less than 10 minutes to relax and process feelings so that you can move through and move on from discomfort. P.S. there was a thunderstorm during the recording, which I think adds perfect ambiance!
how to stand out in a pandemic job application
The pandemic bulldozed over your spring semester sliding right into your job hunt for any 2020 grads. It’s also changed the job landscape putting even more emphasis on being able to stand out among other candidates. In this audio clip, I share a tip that my friend in recruiting gave me that changed the way I present myself during interviews. It may seem obvious, but you’d be surprised how many people don’t do this. You need to be able to show employers why they should hire you for the job and this tip helps paints a memorable story about yourself.
making friends in quarantine
::CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE::
Who are the people in your life that you tell the truth about yourself to?
This is your inner circle…
And it’s not an easy thing to put together. During covid, community is more important than ever. I know I’ve definitely felt isolated!
When I just graduated college, I used to go to Monday night Gabby Bernstein groups where I met a lot of people with like minded interests, but how do we do that in times of quarantine? Megan McDowell of Heartworks shares with me how to build this inner circle at 45 minutes in the podcast below.
Creating community starts with yourself. If you’re only projecting to people that you have your shit together all the time, life is going to be very lonely. This is also why mentorship has been so important to me. Mentors are in my inner circle that meet me and accept where I’m at.
Watch the video clip here:
https://www.instagram.com/tv/CD1-Vi4j_wUrYArFjaEnb6d3YawA0lCJ39lw2U0/
full episode here:
a pep talk on navigating the unknown
I know there’s so much unknown right now (like what will Fall 2020 look like?) and how uncomfortable uncertainty can be especially for college students and recent grads who are already undergoing major transitions. You don’t just have to wait and worry until things get figured out. I actually feel there’s a lot of opportunity if you have the right support! In this pep-talk I share the tips that have helped me navigate this time of uncertainty!