Sometimes I feel it’s easier for students to chat with me, a mentor, versus their parents because of how I receive their stories. The key to having someone open up to you is that they feel safe and unfortunately at times we inadvertently do the opposite to the people we love. In this pep talk, I chat what it means to not match people’s energy, how to get someone to open up to you, and what emotional safety can look like in connection.
how “should” stress ruins relaxing (and what to do about it)
Ever try to relax and then tell yourself all the things you should be doing instead? I should be studying. I should be doing my laundry. I should be out with friends. This definitely ruins relaxing and I’ve seen it spike during the pandemic when we don’t have clear boundaries between all of our activities. Today’s pep talk, I share a quick tip for get out of the “shoulds” when it comes to downtime.
more mentoring:
What to do when you’re Sweating the Small Stuff
https://www.instagram.com/p/BhNGJT1FKGy/?taken-by=maggiedipasquale
The Subtle Ways to be Sweetly Seen
✨Tried to write a blog, but came out easier as a video! What I’ve been working on lately with my students (and myself): The Subtle Ways to be Sweetly Seen✨
https://www.instagram.com/p/Be8r39CFgon/?taken-by=maggiedipasquale
How to Reflect on 2017
Last week, I held a Holiday HangIn in Hoboken where my students and I reflected on our milestones of 2017, shared what we are grateful for, and set intentions for 2018.
A fun way to look at all the different ways that the girls have grown is to use a blank calendar and fill it out with all the big (both positive and negative) milestones that have happened over the year. It would be fun to fill out one as a family!
Wishing everyone a happy healthy holiday! I’m so appreciative of all the girls that shared themselves with me this year. I am so lucky. We have new mentoring and yoga classes happening in January! Can’t wait to spend time with you in the new year!
Love,
Maggie
If you Don’t Ask the Answer is Always No
Asking for what I want is scary for me. I’m afraid of imposing on someone. I’m afraid of getting rejected, but at the end of the day, if I don’t ask the answer is always no.
To ask for something I want or need is an act of self value and love.
Check out the video for more!
https://youtu.be/d9BJqxtpdSw
What to do if You’re Afraid to Raise your Hand in School
I totally relate to being nervous about speaking in school! I worried about what other people thought and if I was going to sound stupid. Being in my own head really took me out of the moment. It’s hard to focus on learning when you’re terrified of being called on! Check out today’s video for an idea that really helped me.
https://youtu.be/i4Yw_3T6VTM
Dealing with Emotional Stress
Today, I’m sharing what an awesome yoga teacher told my class that totally changed the way I looked at emotional stress. Sometimes we judge our feelings (like we SHOULD be something or SHOULDN’T feel a certain way) when it’s possible to have many feelings at once. Check out today’s video to hear what changed my perspective!
https://youtu.be/BGT_nQY04hk
How to Find your Zen
Originally published on Spire & Co
Last week, I wore my new zenned OUT tee when a stranger told me she loved the shirt, but she was the least zen person ever. “Please, I’m my own kind of zen,” I replied.
Zen doesn’t have to be enlightenment under a Bodhi Tree or serenity in every moment.
My zen looks like dance parties. It’s talking with friends, spending time with my family, and being of service. It’s traveling, eating, and trying new things. Sometimes my zen involves tears. It’s meditative and self-explorative. It’s being energetic and calm. My zen is when I have enough self-love to not judge all the different situations and emotions that come up in my life.
ivivva Question #4: Balancing It All Stress
Between homework, sports, friends, and family it can seem like we don’t have enough hours in the day. Check out our last video in this Ivivva series about balancing it all!
https://youtu.be/Eq183wLEYg8