modern mentorship: getting you across campus (and beyond) one pep talk at a time
I always give my students the opportunity to text me in between sessions so they can fill me in on what’s going on or get any kind of support if they need it, but I noticed that there was sometimes hesitancy in reaching out. In today’s pep talk, I’m sharing a reframe for asking for help that’s been really helpful/ make reaching out easier!
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Been recently ditched? If you said, yes, I’m not surprised. September is a HUGE month for friendship shifts. In this episode, I share why back to school getting left out is common, why it’s really big for college freshman, and what you can do about it.
Do you need to give yourself permission? If you’re a people pleaser, this episode could be really helpful for you. In this pep talk, I share my personal relationship with permission right now, walk you through an exercise I’m doing with my students, and chat about what giving ourselves permission really opens up.
Got a soon-to-be college freshman? This is THE pep talk for you. I’m sharing what I think every student should do for solid mental wellness support before going away to school. We chat foundational wellness in terms of nervous system regulation, the parent transition to college, and why mentorship becomes *even* more important the summer before freshman year.
Last week I felt so blue and if you’re from the Northeast, then you know that the winter’s can be tough on our mood. I wanted to share the two big things you can do help shift yourself out of feeling down and how to get the **right** support.
“Everyone has friends already.” “I don’t have anyone to hang with.” There’s an expectation that you get to campus and immediately click, connect, and have a group of friends. For most people that doesn’t happen! In this pep talk, we chat the real timeline of college friendships, stress around picking sophomore year roommates, and why your whole time at college is a great time to meet people (not just freshmen year).
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Re-entry side effects as we come back into the world after the pandemic are a real thing! Would you run 5 miles without any training and expect not to be sore? No! So why are we expecting ourselves not to be impacted after a global event? If you’re someone that’s been feeling low energy, overthinking after social interactions, and just feeling like it’s a little hard to leave your comfort zone, this is the post (ish) pandemic episode for you!
There’s obvious change that happens in life where you know it’s coming like starting or graduating college, but then there’s not-so-obvious big changes like letting go of an old thought pattern or deciding you want something and figuring out how to go after it. We pay a lot of attention to the big changes, but I’ve found that most change comes from the sum of many subtle shifts. Today’s pep talk is not about managing change, but more about when the change you want to see in your life isn’t really happening, if you feel stuck, or what to think about when you want something to change.
Ever try to relax and then tell yourself all the things you should be doing instead? I should be studying. I should be doing my laundry. I should be out with friends. This definitely ruins relaxing and I’ve seen it spike during the pandemic when we don’t have clear boundaries between all of our activities. Today’s pep talk, I share a quick tip for get out of the “shoulds” when it comes to downtime.
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It’s Spring here in the Northeast and if you’re getting outside more and wanted to something to listen to I’m sharing my current fav pep talks!
if you want to be yourself with friends:
if you want to understand yourself more:
if you want to relax:
**bonus** I know I said 3, but hey, this is my space and I want to include a pep talk on dating!
if you’re wondering if they like you: