“Everyone has friends already.” “I don’t have anyone to hang with.” There’s an expectation that you get to campus and immediately click, connect, and have a group of friends. For most people that doesn’t happen! In this pep talk, we chat the real timeline of college friendships, stress around picking sophomore year roommates, and why your whole time at college is a great time to meet people (not just freshmen year).
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There’s obvious change that happens in life where you know it’s coming like starting or graduating college, but then there’s not-so-obvious big changes like letting go of an old thought pattern or deciding you want something and figuring out how to go after it. We pay a lot of attention to the big changes, but I’ve found that most change comes from the sum of many subtle shifts. Today’s pep talk is not about managing change, but more about when the change you want to see in your life isn’t really happening, if you feel stuck, or what to think about when you want something to change.
Mind Body Medicine
Back-to-school can stir up lots of feelings and it’s basically been the focus of all my sessions since the beginning of August. A topic I’ve shared with my students is the mind body connection or how your thoughts and emotions can affect your physical condition. Not as a replacement for medical advice, but whenever I feel out of sorts in my body, I try to think of the emotional component in a literal way. Examples:
A friend said she had no appetite and I asked, “What’s eating you up?”
I had heartburn and my mom asked me, “What’s burning your heart?”
A student had a neck ache and I asked, “Is anyone in your life being a pain in the neck?”
My hip flexors were super tight and I asked myself, “Where am I being inflexible?”
Mindful questions can help you see yourself or situation from a perspective that maybe you didn’t consider before. Pay attention to how you feel physically. Butterflies in your stomach, tension headaches, tight neck and shoulders can all indicate built up feelings. Your body talks to you all day long, you just have to listen. ✨📸 by @maja_bee
Who’s in your inner circle? I think about this a lot as I believe that it’s so important to be discerning about whom you go to for guidance. If a business has a Board of Directors for a company’s growth and well being, why wouldn’t you have one for yours? It’s more than just a great group of friends (and you guys know I love my #dwnycoven). I have many different mentors that help me on a range of topics from advising on my work, to more importantly, supporting my inner well being. Do you have a Personal Board of Advisors? Everyone needs one.
Today is a post dedicated to dispelling college myths. Whether you’re coming home from your freshmen year or gearing up to go, this is for you!
I love working with college freshmen. It’s such a transformative stage of life that can be both totally thrilling and wildly overwhelming. Here are a few topics that I’m always helping girls work through.
You’ll be Instantly happy and this is the BEST TIME of your LIFE.
True, college can be great. I LOVED college, but cut yourself a break. Especially for freshmen, you are in a new place, squeezed into a room with a stranger, facing new academic, social, and emotional challenges. It is okay to feel like you are having a time.
You’ll Meet your Best Friends First Semester Freshmen Year
Slow your roll. You don’t actually see who everyone truly is until second semester then the real personalities come out. I made one of my best friends my senior year so don’t write people off just because they didn’t live on your floor freshmen year.
All your High School Friends are Loving Their College Experience
Do not compare your real life to the social media life of your high school friends. I’ve said this time and time again: Everyone is Lying to you on Social Media (including me). You don’t have the full story. You don’t know everything that’s going on. People only show you what they want you to see. It’s such a small segment of what’s actually happening. There is a huge chance that they probably feel the exact same amount of overwhelmed you do.
College is a major life change. These are things I wish someone told me! I feel that I sought out mentors when I applied to internships and jobs for the first time. I could have really benefited from mentorship before even heading off to school. To talk through any of these topics or for more information please feel free to reach out!