Got a soon-to-be college freshman? This is THE pep talk for you. I’m sharing what I think every student should do for solid mental wellness support before going away to school. We chat foundational wellness in terms of nervous system regulation, the parent transition to college, and why mentorship becomes *even* more important the summer before freshman year.
Did you know that the ‘time is running out’ feeling might just be an anxiety response? Typically when you’re wrestling with the idea of time you’re feeling OOC (the mentor way to saying: Out of Control). In today’s pep talk we talk about being out of control, how to move through the feeling of being OOC, and tips for staying present when you feel like time is moving too fast.
Many of my students have high expectations and end up being super hard on themselves. I recently asked a mentee, “Do you feel like you deserve rest?” and she said, “Only if I’ve earned it.” That resonated big time. In this pep talk, I share the two areas I feel like we need to give ourselves breaks in, thoughts around what brings you energy and what takes it away, and a journal exercise to help you figure out what you need break from.
connect with Maggie:
Is there something wrong me? Is this normal? What is going on here? If you’re a human on the planet, I bet these have crossed your mind at one point or another and I know it can feel like a scary place to be. In today’s pep talk, I answer if I think there’s something wrong with you, what I feel coping mechanisms are, and how being sensitive in a harsh world can show up in our lives.
During the pandemic, I noticed that in the absence of transitions (like a commute or grabbing lunch or going to a workout class) how important they are to our mental wellbeing. In today’s pep talk, I’m chatting why having a transitions from one activity to the next is necessary and how to more mindfully incorporate them into your day.
Sometimes I feel it’s easier for students to chat with me, a mentor, versus their parents because of how I receive their stories. The key to having someone open up to you is that they feel safe and unfortunately at times we inadvertently do the opposite to the people we love. In this pep talk, I chat what it means to not match people’s energy, how to get someone to open up to you, and what emotional safety can look like in connection.
“Everyone has friends already.” “I don’t have anyone to hang with.” There’s an expectation that you get to campus and immediately click, connect, and have a group of friends. For most people that doesn’t happen! In this pep talk, we chat the real timeline of college friendships, stress around picking sophomore year roommates, and why your whole time at college is a great time to meet people (not just freshmen year).
what’s the story you’re telling yourself?
“I’m not good enough.” “I’m not smart enough.” “I can’t do that.” Have you ever said any of those to yourself? The stories we tell ourselves (about ourselves) are incredibly important and believe it or not for many people, a life long story you create about yourself can start during high school. In today’s pep talk, I share some common high school stories that pop up during the college process, how they affect your present, and how to change your story if you don’t love the one you’re telling yourself.
Stack stress is a term I’ve made up to describe what happens when you have a lot going on at once, put caring yourself allll the way at the bottom of your list, then one tiiiiny thing tips everything over. Sound familiar? I bet it does for many! If you’ve ever cried over feeling overwhelmed this is the episode for you. In today’s pep talk, I share 3 things you can do when you feel the pressure of stack stress.