what’s the story you’re telling yourself?
“I’m not good enough.” “I’m not smart enough.” “I can’t do that.” Have you ever said any of those to yourself? The stories we tell ourselves (about ourselves) are incredibly important and believe it or not for many people, a life long story you create about yourself can start during high school. In today’s pep talk, I share some common high school stories that pop up during the college process, how they affect your present, and how to change your story if you don’t love the one you’re telling yourself.
confidence versus competence
Stack stress is a term I’ve made up to describe what happens when you have a lot going on at once, put caring yourself allll the way at the bottom of your list, then one tiiiiny thing tips everything over. Sound familiar? I bet it does for many! If you’ve ever cried over feeling overwhelmed this is the episode for you. In today’s pep talk, I share 3 things you can do when you feel the pressure of stack stress.
an easy exercise for shifting stress
all the stress
Are you waiting to hear back from a college? Hoping to get off a waitlist? Is the unknown stressing you out? College decisions can come with a lot of feelings! Check out this bonus episode for a pep talk on a college acceptance anxiety!
being human in the in-between
In the last half of 2020, I started signing off my weekly newsletter with something I wished for everyone during the week. It became one of my favorite practices so I went back and collected the themes as they’re what I wish for you all in 2021:
comfort in liminal space
a deep sense of inner peace
and most of all lots of health.
I am rooting into these words more than ever. If January is already feeling long, here are some tips on navigating liminal space: the time between what was and what’s next.
mentor support for girls
When I was in my Master’s program, I took a workshop on Jungian psychology. My teacher put a massive pile of magazines on the floor and we picked an image that later became our totem. Unknowingly, I chose the goddess Iris because I loved her gold wings. I found out she’s a messenger goddess typically personified as a rainbow because she is a bridge of communication between heaven and earth.
I related to this right away, but lately, I feel the bridge energy is embodied even more in my private practice.
I am the bridge that helps girls get from where they are to where they want to be.
I help girls walk the bridge from adolescence to adulthood.
I’m also a bridge for parents and their daughters.
Wishing everyone support on whatever bridge you’ve found yourself walking over!
Do you need a Mentor? I know, I do!
One of the things I’m really obsessed with as a mentor is I get the honor of really seeing someone. I get to see what you’re great at, where all your good stuff is (even if you can’t see it for yourself), and how you can bring more of it into your everyday life.
It takes bravery to let someone see you because it can feel so vulnerable, but having someone witness your inner self and be able to share it back with you is like embracing an old friend, but that friend is the deepest part of yourself. I’m lucky to have Peri Zarrella hold that space for me. Below, you can listen to Peri witness what my energy feels like to her, but there are many ways to reveal ourselves. Wishing everyone the courage to share their authenticity with trusted confidants as we head into a new season.
Mind Body Medicine
Back-to-school can stir up lots of feelings and it’s basically been the focus of all my sessions since the beginning of August. A topic I’ve shared with my students is the mind body connection or how your thoughts and emotions can affect your physical condition. Not as a replacement for medical advice, but whenever I feel out of sorts in my body, I try to think of the emotional component in a literal way. Examples:
A friend said she had no appetite and I asked, “What’s eating you up?”
I had heartburn and my mom asked me, “What’s burning your heart?”
A student had a neck ache and I asked, “Is anyone in your life being a pain in the neck?”
My hip flexors were super tight and I asked myself, “Where am I being inflexible?”
Mindful questions can help you see yourself or situation from a perspective that maybe you didn’t consider before. Pay attention to how you feel physically. Butterflies in your stomach, tension headaches, tight neck and shoulders can all indicate built up feelings. Your body talks to you all day long, you just have to listen. ✨📸 by @maja_bee