second myth of the college experience: you’ll meet all you friends freshmen year

“Everyone has friends already.” “I don’t have anyone to hang with.” There’s an expectation that you get to campus and immediately click, connect, and have a group of friends. For most people that doesn’t happen!  In this pep talk, we chat the real timeline of college friendships, stress around picking sophomore year roommates, and why your whole time at college is a great time to meet people (not just freshmen year).

mentor links: 

www.maggiedipasquale.com

1:1 mentoring

parent coaching

online membership for college freshmen

one way high school affects the rest of your life

what’s the story you’re telling yourself?

“I’m not good enough.” “I’m not smart enough.” “I can’t do that.” Have you ever said any of those to yourself? The stories we tell ourselves (about ourselves) are incredibly important and believe it or not for many people, a life long story you create about yourself can start during high school. In today’s pep talk, I share some common high school stories that pop up during the college process, how they affect your present, and how to change your story if you don’t love the one you’re telling yourself.

more mentoring: 

confidence versus competence

mentor links: 

https://maggiedipasquale.com/

1:1 sessions

stack stress support

Stack stress is a term I’ve made up to describe what happens when you have a lot going on at once, put caring yourself allll the way at the bottom of your list, then one tiiiiny thing tips everything over. Sound familiar? I bet it does for many! If you’ve ever cried over feeling overwhelmed this is the episode for you. In today’s pep talk, I share 3 things you can do when you feel the pressure of stack stress.

mentioned links: 

an easy exercise for shifting stress

all the stress

a pep talk for when you’re waiting on college decisions

Are you waiting to hear back from a college? Hoping to get off a waitlist? Is the unknown stressing you out? College decisions can come with a lot of feelings! Check out this bonus episode for a pep talk on a college acceptance anxiety!

pep talks on navigating the unknown

being human in the in-between

In the last half of 2020, I started signing off my weekly newsletter with something I wished for everyone during the week. It became one of my favorite practices so I went back and collected the themes as they’re what I wish for you all in 2021:⁣


big dreams ⁣
clarity ⁣
calm ⁣
gentle guidance ⁣
comfort in liminal space ⁣
a deep sense of inner peace ⁣
connection ⁣
fomo freeness ⁣
ease ⁣
softness ⁣

and most of all lots of health.

I am rooting into these words more than ever. If January is already feeling long, here are some tips on navigating liminal space: the time between what was and what’s next.

thoughts on mentorship for post grads, college students, and more!

mentor support for girls

When I was in my Master’s program, I took a workshop on Jungian psychology. My teacher put a massive pile of magazines on the floor and we picked an image that later became our totem. Unknowingly, I chose the goddess Iris because I loved her gold wings. I found out she’s a messenger goddess typically personified as a rainbow because she is a bridge of communication between heaven and earth.

I related to this right away, but lately, I feel the bridge energy is embodied even more in my private practice.

I am the bridge that helps girls get from where they are to where they want to be.

I help girls walk the bridge from adolescence to adulthood.

I’m also a bridge for parents and their daughters.

Wishing everyone support on whatever bridge you’ve found yourself walking over!


 

Is Mentorship Important?

Do you need a Mentor? I know, I do!

One of the things I’m really obsessed with as a mentor is I get the honor of really seeing someone. I get to see what you’re great at, where all your good stuff is (even if you can’t see it for yourself), and how you can bring more of it into your everyday life.

It takes bravery to let someone see you because it can feel so vulnerable, but having someone witness your inner self and be able to share it back with you is like embracing an old friend, but that friend is the deepest part of yourself. I’m lucky to have Peri Zarrella hold that space for me. Below, you can listen to Peri witness what my energy feels like to her, but there are many ways to reveal ourselves. Wishing everyone the courage to share their authenticity with trusted confidants as we head into a new season.

My Best Advice for Living with College Roommates

 

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on college roommates ⁣ ⁣ a little late to posting this because many of you have already moved into your dorms, but just a note on living with roommates for the first time. ⁣ ⁣ My biggest piece of advice is to have zero expectations. Most of you will be squeezed into a room with a stranger. Don’t put pressure on the roommate situation by thinking that you guys should be best friends, invite each other to everything, have the same philosophies or standards of living. You just have to be open. There can be so much newness in college and being in this major life transition can be overwhelming. Take this time to get curious about yourself, about others, about your needs, likes, and dislikes. College, and freshman year especially, can be an amazing time for self-discovery if you allow it. ⁣ ⁣ ** Bigger piece of advice** Figure out your roommate’s schedule and pencil in alone time. Most places at school are common areas so it can be hard to find time to be by yourself and decompress. Everyone needs time by themselves so schedule it when your roommate is at class and you’re not. 📸 by @maja_bee

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